The Saturday Morning Cup: Goals & Resolutions

Posted January 4, 2014 by Stormy in Blogging / 9 Comments

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Note: I did have this schedule to post this morning, but the server my site is on was down when I had this scheduled to go up. That’s all right, though–come join me for an evening Saturday cup!

Good morning! For anyone who doesn’t know, the Saturday morning cup is a feature on the blog in which I discuss random, non-bookish, often personal and/or vulnerable topics(though it’s open to anything, so sometimes are less serious than others!).

Ah, a new year. And with that, comes New Year Resolutions. And with THAT comes all the opinions about New Year Resolutions–things from This will be the year I get it to If you really wanted to change, you wouldn’t wait until a new year. I get both of those, I do. In fact, at the end of last month, I told myself I wasn’t going to set New Year Resolutions because those were destined to fail, but I was going to set goals instead.

Which seems a bit silly now. I mean, a resolution and a goal are basically the same thing, right? Whatever you call them, you have them–goals. Promises. Resolutions. Intentions. Actions. Things you want to do. And maybe January 1st is the arbitrary date you decide to start. Or maybe it’s January 9th, or February 11th, or September 29th. The date doesn’t really matter. So for today’s morning coffee cup, I just want to tell you–whoever is reading this–that resolutions/goals/whatever–are not determined to fail just because you started them when a million other people did as well. That type of self-defeating attitude actually makes failure more likely.

I’m not an expert on goals or anything, but when I was thinking about this post I realized I’ve actually completed some pretty large goals in life, especially for being in my early 20s.

Goals I Have Accomplished:

  • In 2013, I decided I was going to write a novel. And I did! It was later in the year than I thought it would be–it took a good six months of me writing down ideas, playing around with themes, before I really discovered a story that actually came to be very suddenly, but it was the first idea I could latch on to. And I wrote that between September and November of 2012.
  • Back in high school, I gave up soda. I remember this being really hard at the time, but now it seems so easy–I don’t even like much soda any more, as the flavor is often too strong. I’ll still drink Sprite sometimes and the occasional Doctor Pepper , but only a few times a year.
  • Eating breakfast was a New Year’s Resolution for 2013, and now I can’t go without it!
  • I organized my music library(which sounds like a really boring goal, but hey, I accomplished it!)

So what are some of my goals for 2014? I have a running list for the year, and it’s quite long(some are just one-time goals of things I want to do), so I’m not gonna give ya’ll the full list, but I’ll share some of my favorites! Also, I like to have some completely just-for-fun goals as well. I’m also going to skip most of the bookish ones, since there’s a Top Ten Tuesday coming up on that topic.

2014 Goals:

1. Revise the novel I wrote at the end of 2013. I’ve started reading it for revisions, and I am both excited and scared. It’s astounding how I can find a line I wrote that I really love, and then read a scene that makes me think I must have written it in a haze of sleep-deprivation because of the utter senselessness.

2. Cook and host a meal for friends. I like cooking. I like my friends. What I struggle with is inviting my friends into my home. But this also sounds like it could be really fun, so on the list it goes!

3. Go to a movie by myself. Have you ever gone to a movie by yourself? I have, and it’s actually a WONDERFUL experience(in my opinion). I don’t go to the movies very often, but I’d like to go to one by myself. I only went to the movies three times in 2013–twice for Catching Fire, both times with my Dad, and then to see The Book Thief. I went by myself to see The Book Thief in a city that was foreign to me and it was delightful.

4. Find a job. A big one. I have a job right now, but the program my job is part of expires in July. It’s nice that I’ve known from the very beginning that this work was only for a year, especially since I can’t claim to love it most of the time, but also finding a job is both hard and intimidating, especially when I don’t even know where I want to be.

5. Shop Ethically. The idea of shopping ethically–not buying from brands that use slave labor or sweat shops or treat workers poorly–is important to me, but it’s hard to do sometimes, especially since I live in an area that doesn’t have the best selection all the times. So my goal in 2014 is to do what I can, where I can.

6. Discover New Music. Another just-for-fun goal, but seriously, I discovered hardly any music in 2013 because I just wasn’t looking and listening to the same stuff. I’m open to recommendations, by the way! I do have my favorite genres, but I’m not going to say them here because I want the most diverse spread for anyone who feels like commenting on this one. I don’t like rap or most straight country, but I have to confess I do really love the banjo. . .

7. Buy more fresh flowers. This isn’t a difficult goal, but I always pass up flowers because I don’t want to justify the money since they’ll die eventually. But no, not this year. I mean, not like I can buy them by the dozen, but fresh flowers make me happy. I will buy them when I want and have them brighten up the room.

YOUR CUP: Do you have any goals you’re working on?(New Year Resolution or not). Also, do you have music suggestions for me? Because I’m serious about being open to suggestions. . .

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9 responses to “The Saturday Morning Cup: Goals & Resolutions

  1. The notion that New Year resolutions fail is wrong! Even though I never stick to mine! :p

    You wrote a whole novel??! WOW! That is a huge accomplishment! Congrats! 😀
    Good luck on revising it. Some say that its a lot of fun 🙂
    If you dont mind me asking, what field of job do you work in?

    I’ve always wanted to go for a movie alone. I too have gone to the movies rarely -five times in my life! xD It would be a relaxing experience to go alone!

    I think you’ll like Of Monsters and Men, if you haven’t heard them already? They have a Catching Fire track- Silhouettes and two others are great as well- Dirty Paws, and Little Talks. 😀

    • stormydawnc

      Haha, yeah, I find I do better on goals if I don’t give them the name “New Year Resolutions.”
      I did! And thank you! It definitely made me feel accomplished, but the idea of revising scares me.
      I currently work in non-profit youth programming right now. I like working with students, but I don’t think I want to continue doing it. And I definitely don’t like a lot of the administration aspects.
      I love Of Monsters and Men! They’re one of my favorites. 🙂

  2. Cee

    Resolution is such an intimidating word. There’s always the expectation you’ll break it. I think that’s why I prefer saying goals. Ha. ;D

    I gave up drinking soda years ago too and it was the best decision ever! I think I drink soda when I’m at a fast food place. Other than that, no thank you from me. I haven’t eaten properly breakfast since high school. I do have it when I’m over at my friend’s house, but never in my own. It’s weird. I really need to change that.

    I haven’t been to the movies by myself in foreevverrrr. I did it once in high school and I felt soooo awkward sitting by myself. 😛 I get so self-conscious when I shouldn’t. Lots of people go to the movies alone. So major props to you for being able to do it.

    Good luck on revising your novel! I am forever stuck writing this YA story with my BFF. We still haven’t attempted to write anything after nanowrimo ended and we really should. 😛 I need to find a job too! It’s so discouraging that I still have not found one. :\ I need to continue searching, but it’s so hard to be optimistic when I’m rejected. 🙁 It gives me major anxiety being jobless and I do not like! I hope you find a job! 😀

    • stormydawnc

      I know, there’s just something about the world goals that sounds better to me.

      Sometimes I have a soda at a restaurant, but yeah, it’s an occasional thing. I mean, I’ve never liked coke or pepsi, so that helps, but I use to drink at least 2 cans of Dr. Pepper a DAY. Shudder!

      Haha, going to the movies by yourself feels awkward at first but it can be so relaxing. Plus, you don’t have to split popcorn with anyone!

  3. […] On Monday I shared my December wrap-up. My Top Ten Tuesday was all about my favorite books I read in 2013. Wednesday I shared the book challenges I’m participating in this year. Thursday I reviewed the audiobook for Ready Player One by Ernest Cline. Friday I reviewed Just One Day by Gayle Forman. Saturday I talked about goals & resolutions. […]

  4. Congrats on writing a book! I think that’s really amazing. I’ve been writing for a long while (although not as much anymore now as in my teen years) but I never actually finished writing one. I’d always quit or start something else. I do hope I can finish one this year and it’s kind of a goal of mine.

    I will have to try going to a movie by myself. I don’t mind doing things by myself, sometimes I even love doing it alone (like traveling), but I’ve never actually gone to the movies by myself.

    Good luck with your goals 😀

    • stormydawnc

      Thank you! I’ve been a writer as long as I can remember, but I’ve never finished a novel before. Ever. I’d always get distracted. And it took me a few false starts–the manuscript I finished was my third attempt of the year(one I plan on going back to, because I still love the story–the other was just unoriginal and a bad idea, but I think it was good to get it out of my system). Good luck with that goal! It was tough but SO worth it. Even if I never do anything with that novel, I know that I’m capable of finishing one.

  5. Giving up soda and eating breakfast are two things that I’d like to work on this year too-And right now both of these seem very tough to do!

    I’ve never been to a movie by myself! Maybe because I feel like it would be a lil awkward? I do enjoy watching movies alone at home so maybe I’ll try this soon. 🙂

    You don’t like country?? I pegged you for a country music person for some reason! You should definitely give it a try, there are some great artists who focus on that genre.

    And I really like goal #7-Being impulsive and doing something just because it makes me happy like buying flowers for no reason is something that I struggle with so I think it’s great that it’s on your list!

    Good Luck with your writing, job search and your goals! Happy New Year, Stormy! 😀

    Nuzaifa @ Say It with Books

    • stormydawnc

      Giving up soda & eating breakfast seemed so tough at the time, but now it’s so natural! I think giving up soda was a lot tougher than eating breakfast. I replaced soda with juices and things–still a bit sugary, but better. Then I weaned off to almost exclusively water. I drink coffee in the morning, sometimes tea, and then water at every meal and throughout the day.

      Haha, I don’t like country because it’s ALL I listened to in high school! Since I’m from Texas, it was a staple. It was nice to get away from that. Maybe one day I’ll go back to that genre of music, but probably not anytime soon. I do like bluegrass/folk that’s similar to country–but I just really love the banjo, I have to admit.

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