Note: I did have this schedule to post this morning, but the server my site is on was down when I had this scheduled to go up. That’s all right, though–come join me for an evening Saturday cup!
Good morning! For anyone who doesn’t know, the Saturday morning cup is a feature on the blog in which I discuss random, non-bookish, often personal and/or vulnerable topics(though it’s open to anything, so sometimes are less serious than others!).
Ah, a new year. And with that, comes New Year Resolutions. And with THAT comes all the opinions about New Year Resolutions–things from This will be the year I get it to If you really wanted to change, you wouldn’t wait until a new year. I get both of those, I do. In fact, at the end of last month, I told myself I wasn’t going to set New Year Resolutions because those were destined to fail, but I was going to set goals instead.
Which seems a bit silly now. I mean, a resolution and a goal are basically the same thing, right? Whatever you call them, you have them–goals. Promises. Resolutions. Intentions. Actions. Things you want to do. And maybe January 1st is the arbitrary date you decide to start. Or maybe it’s January 9th, or February 11th, or September 29th. The date doesn’t really matter. So for today’s morning coffee cup, I just want to tell you–whoever is reading this–that resolutions/goals/whatever–are not determined to fail just because you started them when a million other people did as well. That type of self-defeating attitude actually makes failure more likely.
I’m not an expert on goals or anything, but when I was thinking about this post I realized I’ve actually completed some pretty large goals in life, especially for being in my early 20s.
Goals I Have Accomplished:
- In 2013, I decided I was going to write a novel. And I did! It was later in the year than I thought it would be–it took a good six months of me writing down ideas, playing around with themes, before I really discovered a story that actually came to be very suddenly, but it was the first idea I could latch on to. And I wrote that between September and November of 2012.
- Back in high school, I gave up soda. I remember this being really hard at the time, but now it seems so easy–I don’t even like much soda any more, as the flavor is often too strong. I’ll still drink Sprite sometimes and the occasional Doctor Pepper , but only a few times a year.
- Eating breakfast was a New Year’s Resolution for 2013, and now I can’t go without it!
- I organized my music library(which sounds like a really boring goal, but hey, I accomplished it!)
So what are some of my goals for 2014? I have a running list for the year, and it’s quite long(some are just one-time goals of things I want to do), so I’m not gonna give ya’ll the full list, but I’ll share some of my favorites! Also, I like to have some completely just-for-fun goals as well. I’m also going to skip most of the bookish ones, since there’s a Top Ten Tuesday coming up on that topic.
1. Revise the novel I wrote at the end of 2013. I’ve started reading it for revisions, and I am both excited and scared. It’s astounding how I can find a line I wrote that I really love, and then read a scene that makes me think I must have written it in a haze of sleep-deprivation because of the utter senselessness.
2. Cook and host a meal for friends. I like cooking. I like my friends. What I struggle with is inviting my friends into my home. But this also sounds like it could be really fun, so on the list it goes!
3. Go to a movie by myself. Have you ever gone to a movie by yourself? I have, and it’s actually a WONDERFUL experience(in my opinion). I don’t go to the movies very often, but I’d like to go to one by myself. I only went to the movies three times in 2013–twice for Catching Fire, both times with my Dad, and then to see The Book Thief. I went by myself to see The Book Thief in a city that was foreign to me and it was delightful.
4. Find a job. A big one. I have a job right now, but the program my job is part of expires in July. It’s nice that I’ve known from the very beginning that this work was only for a year, especially since I can’t claim to love it most of the time, but also finding a job is both hard and intimidating, especially when I don’t even know where I want to be.
5. Shop Ethically. The idea of shopping ethically–not buying from brands that use slave labor or sweat shops or treat workers poorly–is important to me, but it’s hard to do sometimes, especially since I live in an area that doesn’t have the best selection all the times. So my goal in 2014 is to do what I can, where I can.
6. Discover New Music. Another just-for-fun goal, but seriously, I discovered hardly any music in 2013 because I just wasn’t looking and listening to the same stuff. I’m open to recommendations, by the way! I do have my favorite genres, but I’m not going to say them here because I want the most diverse spread for anyone who feels like commenting on this one. I don’t like rap or most straight country, but I have to confess I do really love the banjo. . .
7. Buy more fresh flowers. This isn’t a difficult goal, but I always pass up flowers because I don’t want to justify the money since they’ll die eventually. But no, not this year. I mean, not like I can buy them by the dozen, but fresh flowers make me happy. I will buy them when I want and have them brighten up the room.
YOUR CUP: Do you have any goals you’re working on?(New Year Resolution or not). Also, do you have music suggestions for me? Because I’m serious about being open to suggestions. . .